Where I’m From

(After George Ella Lyon) I am from star jasmine,from slingshots and forbidden books. I am from foaming water, pulling me under.(white, churningtasting like salt.) I am from the black walnut,the wild blueberry bush,whose roots dug tenaciously into the Michigan soil,resurfacing every summer, as I did.   I am from poviticas and freckles,from Ruth, Frances, and Lavina.…

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To Dust

The dog grows old, the fledgling you rescued dies anyways,the water dries up, the crops (the dreams) you planted turn to dust. It was not supposed to be this way. (This breaks my heart.)Or maybe this is exactly how it was supposed to be.(And this breaks my heart even more.) And yet; The sun rises –again,again,again,even though,…

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A Wish For Next Year

I wish for the impossible, for the faraway lifetime that ended years ago. I wish that the earth, soft with winter rain, would feel your feet — wide and solid — walk again through our garden. And that you would gather winter squash as you did before. I wish for one more brightly-lit dinner around…

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The First Year – Navigating These Seasons When Your Child Has Died

Grief is a wilderness — sometimes I think I can see where I am supposed to go, but most of the time I can’t quite make out where the path is or how this will all settle down to something I can hold in my hands and say — ‘There. There is my loss and…

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Helping Teenagers with the Death Of A Sibling

It’s November already. Almost one year since my youngest daughter died by suicide during her first semester away at college. Even as I write those words, I have to pause and let them wash over me as though they are new words, as if this is a new grief. I don’t think these words will…

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Four Things Trail Running Taught Me About Living With Grief

It was an early morning, and a couple of running friends and I set off for an easy run along our local trail. I started thinking about my daughter, who died suddenly last year, and about life, grief, and how things often don’t end up the way we expect them to. As my hips and…

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The Impossible Month: The Anniversary of My Child’s Death

November is the month of marigold petals, pungent and bold, of smoke, and bone-white daughter-grief.   It is the month when the leaves bleed red. Where the sun — bleeding through the thick, suffocating smoke — casts a sickly yellow hue on all our faces. Where the words that you are dead bleed through my eyes…

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Broken Pieces

I think some people are born broken. There’s something about the way the pieces of their soul clatter and shift discordantly inside them from the day they arrive on this earth. Yes, I know there are glorious stories about broken people who were able to rise above the blackness to fit the pieces together, who…

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